Be the change you want to see in the world...

The older I get, the less material things matter. Material things don't necessarily have to mean something that is tangible, either. I'm talking about reputation, people's opinions, etc. Now a days, quality of life to me consist of things that money can't buy. I have happy children, a handful of great friends, a loving significant other and I'm in a place where I love myself, nothing else matters. Which leads to me the whole title of this blog, BE the CHANGE. Don't allow negative people to affect how you look at the world. Regardless of how may times I have had my name dragged through the mud, I still believe in kindness. There is still good left in this world & I have always set that expectation for myself to be part of that good. I was raised by very old school grandparents. I was taught to always be humble, even if people didn't deserve it. I thank God for the common sense and kind mentality they brought me up with. So on that note...

CYBER BULLYING. I can't stand it. It's pointless, immature and hurtful. 

Whoever made up the whole "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me." ...is full of crap. Someone's words can hurt way more than a damn stick and the wound will take a lot longer to heal. 

People might forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel. So why is it that "trolling" and plastering rumors/negative thoughts about someone all over social media has become so popular? Your guess is as good as mine, I don't understand it at all. Speaking ill of someone doesn't solve anything, it just makes you look like an insecure jackass. 

I would be lying if I said I've never posted something hurtful about somebody. As teenage girls, I think we were all a special breed of cut throat, mean girl type, hormonal...well...bitches. We ALL were at some point in time. It's just "what girls do". However, it's been quite sometime since I've posted a "that was a low blow" status directed towards anyone. It's called maturity, this wonderful thing that happens when you actually grow the hell up. You let things of the past go & move forward with your life. Life is way too short to worry about yesterday's bullshit, you feel me? 

Internet thuggin' - it's really not cool, like at all. 

You're probably wondering why I kind of went off the "be the change" track and went to cyber bullying station. I have a point to make, promise! 

& here it is. 

I'm a mother and a big sister. My younger sisters are 17 & 13, that delicate age where everything that everyone else thinks about you matters. My son is about to go to Kindergarten at a public school system. 

There is nothing more heart breaking than when my little sisters call me to ask for advice, because some group of mean girls said something/wrote something. How do you explain to teenage girls to just let it go? You can't. 

The thought of someone writing something about my son, or picking on him when he goes to school fills me with sadness and anger. 

My point is, before you are so quick to take to a keyboard to say nasty things about someone - THINK. What would you do if that was your child at the center of it? A sibling? What if it was YOU? This is why I think before I speak/take action. Be the change you want to see in the world, set a good example. I would never want my sons to see me slander somebody via social media/internet. What would I be teaching them? Nothing valuable, that's for damn sure. Which is why I used cyber bullying as an example, I'm always telling my sisters not to worry about what other people take time to write/say about them. As hard as it is, silence is the best treatment to a loud mouth. 

Seek to give more compliments and less criticism. Empower each other, don't tear each other down. Be good and do good. Make sure the person you are promoting to other people is the same one you see when you look in the mirror at the end of the day. Words can make or break a person, be someone's reason they smile.

Don't be afraid to be yourself, people talk regardless - so give them something good to talk about.  

....nothing but positive vibes over here...

-Kristen

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